Get the goods on joining the 'Backdoor Betty' club. Hilda Hutcherson, author of Pleasure: A Women's Guide to Getting the Sex You Want, Need, and Deserve , loves sex toys, believes the world is much too porno-phobic, and thinks more women should give anal sex a try. All guys seem to want it , while all girls seem to hate it.
2. There are official anal sex rules?
Ten Women Reveal What Made Them Try Back Door For The First Time
Is there a more awkward conversation to have with your lady than finding a way to uhh The gritty details of the act don't exactly lend themselves well to being talked about over dinner. But you can't just try to slip it in when things are getting hot and heavy without asking, either.
1. I'm pretty sure the butt wasn't made to be penetrated. Is anal sex bad for you?
Anal isn't for everyone. No matter how keen you are or how hard you coax, your wife may never be into it. So don't set your sights too high. She may object for any number of reasons. Maybe she's squeamish about cleanliness or worried it will hurt. Perhaps she had a bad experience with anal in the past. If she's afraid of getting dirty — not sexy-freaky dirty but stains-on-the-sheets dirty — invite her to take a nice, steamy shower or bath with you first. Just the act of stripping down and lathering each other up may get her in the mood to experiment. Is she afraid of pain?
I felt so bad for the women in the previous article , having anal sex when it obviously wasn't something they liked. We're in charge of our sexuality, and we ought to own it. I love anal and hate receiving oral , so I'm really weird, but so what? I have someone who appreciates me for me. I first tried it 15 years ago, with my husband. I'd had fantasies about it before and was more into doing it — I expected to like it as much as I ultimately do. We had tried buttplay before, using fingers, and I always loved it. I don't talk about it with my friends much, because there's a stigma against women who enjoy it. Either they're sluts or they're lying for male validation.